True love is not as elusive as most people believe. One of the common reasons why many people have a hard time finding true love is because they don’t know what it is in the first place. If you want to know who you’re destined to be with for the rest of your life then the secrets to discovering his identity lie below.
Tip #1: Make a list of what you want and don’t want in a guy.
Be very specific. Start by listing five traits that your ideal guy must and mustn’t have. You have to be practical and completely honest about yourself. Skip superficial traits like eye or skin color. Think of traits that really matter. Contrary to what most people think, finding true love isn’t all about making compromises. Rather, it’s about searching for that one person that complements you best.
You may think you don’t know what type of guy your ideal man would be but you do know it. You just have to look deep inside yourself. Consider, for instance, something that you can’t give up. Are you a dedicated bibliophile? If so, the guy you love must understand and respect your love for books and would never attempt to take it away from you.
Tip #2: You must share the same goals for the future.
Finding true love is also about searching for that one guy who wants the same things that you do. It doesn’t have to be completely the same but both of you should at least share the same vision for the future. If you’re the career-oriented type and you don’t really see yourself having any kids then your future partner must not have any problems with this. It’s not enough that he understands your decision. Rather, he must appreciate your decision as well because he feels the same way regardless of the reason.
Tip #3: You must enjoy each other company’s even without the passion.
Simply put, finding true love is akin to finding your best friend for life. It’s unfortunate that a lot of people fail to understand how some couples see each other as best friends. It only means that they haven’t experienced the same thing, which consequently means they haven’t found their destined partners either.
Passion is a key ingredient in relationships, yes, but it can’t be something that would completely consume your time. There will be instances when passion is not the right answer and what then? Do you find yourself bored? Those who are really into each other have fun with each other no matter what they’re doing and even if they aren’t speaking. They’re simply happy because they’re together.
Tip #4: Both of you must be lucky to have each other.
Finding true love is also about never settling for second best. You shouldn’t stay with a guy because you feel incredibly lucky to have him and you’d be a fool to give him up. That means you feel unworthy of him and you shouldn’t feel like that.
Sometimes, in finding true love, you have to give up something good to make way for something great.