Where’s My Valentine?

by Connie H. Deutsch

Valentine's Day is fast approaching and hearts and flowers are popping up all over the place. Every store you go into beckons you to buy something for the one you love. People don't hesitate to ask you what you got for Valentine's Day as if this is a given like Christmas or your birthday. I've even heard people say that they like this holiday best of all because it has nothing to do with religion or politics. And best of all, we have images of Cupid aiming his arrow at someone's heart and reminding us that everyone loves a lover.

For many people, it's romance and feelings of unbridled joy and optimism for the future of their relationship. For others, not so. I remember teachers in the lower grades giving us the assignment to make Valentine's Day cards for our classmates and then we put them into a box and the teacher would call out the names of the recipients of the Valentines. Some recipients would get a zillion Valentines while others got none except the ones the teacher put in the box to make sure that everyone got at least one card.

Fast forward to adulthood. Valentine's Day has come to mean a lot of things to a lot of people. For many who are in terrible relationships, it can mean no acknowledgment whatsoever while for others, it can be the one day of the year that a husband can try to make up for neglecting his wife the rest of the year or assuage his guilt for having a lover.

But for more people than you can count, it underscores the sadness and loneliness of those who have no one special in their lives. If there is any one day of the year where those on the outside desperately want to get inside of Relationship Heaven, it's Valentine's Day. They don't even care if they are in a good relationship as long as they are in some relationship on that day.

It can be especially difficult for people who are going through a divorce or breaking up with a lover to watch everyone around them buying cards and gifts for that someone special and know that this year there won't be an exchange of these things for them. They hear people making plans for romantic dinners for two and know that this year they will probably be eating alone. Many of their friends might not even realize how isolating this holiday can be for them so they don't call or try to get together with them.

Patients in hospitals and old age homes are often overlooked for most things and Valentine's Day is no exception. This isn't the kind of holiday that raises the awareness for those who are alone, often unloved. For many with severe physical health issues, Valentine's Day is the least of their concerns but for those who are not in critical condition, when they hear people discussing their plans for a romantic evening or see florists bringing bouquets of flowers to the occupants of other rooms in their facility, it reminds them that no one cares enough about them to call or send a card.

With holidays like Christmas and Easter, there is a social consciousness for the underprivileged, and checks are mailed to food banks and to the various charitable organizations. Groceries are distributed to the homeless shelters and people volunteer their time in the soup kitchens. For most of us, there is a deep awareness that we need to share what we have with those who have not.

But for Valentine's Day, there is no such awareness. People go about their daily lives and give no thought to the people who have no one to share this holiday with them. There are no soup kitchens and distribution centers for the lonely unattached Valentine singles. For most of them, the day couldn't end fast enough.

This Valentine's Day, call someone who lives alone; talk to someone who looks lonely or sad; smile at someone who looks grouchy; send an E-mail to someone you've neglected for awhile; share your happiness with someone; and don't hesitate to give everyone you meet, a Hallmark moment; the kindness you share, will come back to you a hundredfold.

Information About For – Valentine’s Day Cards For Your Love

Love is a symbol of eternity and once it touches your heart, you are never the same again. You see all your happiness and joys with your partner. Life seems an unending serenade encircling you with all the worldly bliss.

Valentines Day is the most cherished and anticipated day for the lovers all over the world. Time, when couples try to rekindle their romance and heat up the lost passions. It's the perfect occasion to open your heart and convey the innermost feelings of love, tenderness, caress and affection. If you have a crush on someone or dating then there's no better day then Valentines Day, to let the heart thumping emotions come out.

Spread the magic of love and make it reach to someone special in your life through Valentines Day cards. Cards dolled up with beautiful imagery and romantic quotations and heart touching content is the ideal and most preferred choice for Valentines Day. -There is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved.~ by George Sand ~-Love is an act of endless forgiveness A tender look which becomes a habit.~ by Peter Ustinov ~-Love knows no reasons, love knows no lies. Love defies all reasons, love has no eyes. But love is not blind, love sees but doesn't mind.~ by Author unknown ~-Love is the enchanted dawn of every heart.- Lamartine

It's a common belief that Valentine was the first person to send Valentine's greeting. In prison he fell in love with his jailor's daughter, while she visited her father during his confinement. Just before his death, he wrote her a letter, which he signed From Your Valentine, an expression which is a benchmark for lovers all over the world till this date. Esther Howland, famously known, as mother of valentine was the trendsetter. She firstly, mass produced the commercial cards and, decorated it with lace, ribbons. Soon after the craze of exchanging greeting cards caught up. On Valentine's Day, the business of greeting cards goes up with skyrocketing speed. As per the Greeting Cards Association estimates, one billion cards are sent on Valentine's Day alone, making it second largest card sending holiday of the year (estimated 2.6 million cards are sent in Christmas).

Besides the usual greeting cards made of good quality paper, there's Valentine ecards also. Numerous sites are offering cards online. With the accessibility of Internet and reliability on computers increasing, ecards have a lot to offer. Show your love with Valentines Day eCards, as it's easy, fast and cheaper.

Beautify your love card, put it in a scented envelope and decorate it with silk lace, sparkles and glitters. Just love cards won't do the trick. Go an extra mile and send the corset of flowers, jewelry set, or fluffy teddy along with the Valentine's Day cards. As the love enchants everyone round the world, mollycoddle your beloved with all your heart, as it's the time when soul meets soul. Seal the moments of togetherness and make it a treasured experience with host of Valentine e card and Valentines Day cards.

Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

So you go on vacation, you meet someone; you fall in love, then what? You can't move because you have established a profitable business back home, and you are very close with all of your long time friends and family.?? So what can you do, you don't want to let the person of your dreams go.?? So you both decide to try a long distance relationship in hopes down the road you can be together again.

In most cases you are up for a challenge when you enter into a long-distance relationship. Some of the challenges are arranging phone calls, video chats, and costly weekend get-a ways.?? Not to mention if you have to deal with other complications that could affect the outcome of your relationship, such as children, immigration and expenses.

How can you make your long distance relationship easier on you and your mate?

So how can you have success at lasting in a long distance relationship? The answer to that is to keep the lines of communication open.?? What you have on your side in this day and age is that there are so many ways to communicate it is almost hard not to keep in touch. ??For example, phone, text, mail, video, webcam, send flowers, tele-gram, e-cards, Facebook, etc…

Statistically long distance relationships and even marriages are on the rise, which also means the success rate of long distance relationships lasting and even leading to marriage are on the rise as well.

Are You Keeping Him or Freaking Him?

Who hasn't fibbed or fudged it to catch or keep a man? 'All's fair in lust and war. We'll, that was my excuse,' says 28 year old freelance copyrighter Candace. But while her friends were prepared to buy it when she bleached her stunning auburn hair - pubes included - to attract Zane, a visiting international ballplayer who preferred blondes, they balked when she began dropping assignments and other interests - including them - to be with him.

He, it emerged, was as possessive of his blondes as of the ball. It was when Candace got pregnant to keep him that she nearly lost all of her friends entirely, along with the plot.

'What can I say?' she sighs today. 'I was 23 and crazily in wouldn't commit and his contract was coming to an end. I seriously thought throwing in my job and following him around the world with a baby could make us happy.'

Candace blamed antibiotics for upsetting her cycle on the Pill, and Zane believed her - but backed straight out. He didn't ask for tests and offered to pay maintenance, but that wasn't what she was after. At the time she was devastated and when she miscarried at two months she almost had a breakdown. That's when she turned to professional help and began questioning how she's arrived at that point.

'When you want something so much, you just do what you feel you must do,' she says now. 'It's really hard to know how much is too much. And it's even harder to hold back.'

How Much is Too Much?

It's healthy and necessary to compromise in relationships and to sacrifice to some degree. Sometimes relationships require some healthy pretence. You may need to pretend you're not irritated about something small and let it go to keep the peace. It's when you have to pretend about things because you're anxious you'll lose him if you are yourself, or when you start to lose your sense of identity in the process of pretending, that it starts to become unhealthy.

Women often fib or change themselves to a degree to be attractive to their partners. How many women wake up in the morning next to a man the way nature intended - with absolutely no effort made? It's not necessary to tell him everything you do to improve yourself physically and in other ways, such as through the tips you pick up in self help books or the advice you get from other people.

It's the intent and the extent of the behavior that is important. The point to watch for is when your decisions become 'other centered', and when you lose a clear sense of who you are and what fits with you. If you press pass this point, you risk losing the sense of who you are, and risk re-creating yourself as something you believe someone else wants.

This is a sign that your liking or loving them has turned into an unhealthy obsession. And the irony is that the more you do this, and the tighter you cling, the more you will frighten off the object of your affection and risk getting the very result you fear.

Are You at Risk?

The woman who goes too far to get or keep a man fails to see that the more desperate she becomes, the more he'll avoid her because of the intensity and anxiety in the air. A vicious cycle is created, with the potential to escalate past sad or silly to scary - deliberately getting pregnant, undergoing surgery, using love potions, even stalking or harming the man or hurting yourself.

Think Hard Before you Act on your Emotions

Changing yourself significantly, lying or acting in order to win or keep someone is about a deep fear of being different or separate. These devices usually operate to protect you psychologically from feeling that difference implies an aching separateness rather than a healthy differentiation. When you do this and are not yourself, or don't have your own opinions, you are what psychologists refer to as 'dependent' - you assume the other person won't like you, or will disapprove of you or reject you because of who you are.

This is an indication of low or nonexistent confidence - often the result of an upbringing that didn't provide consistency and security. The problem is that in a relationship, if you change or put on an act to win or keep a partner, you'll end up with a sense that the relationship lacks connection and depth. You'll also lose trust. The outcome will be neurosis and anxiety.

Reading the Signs

Changing yourself for someone else is just one of the signs of unhealthy obsession. If you can't concentrate on your normal daily demands, if you can't stop yourself phoning, SMSing or emailing the person incessantly and if they're indicating they don't want to be with you but you don't want to accept it. And get professional help if you start checking on them, or following them or having thoughts about harming them or yourself.

How to Turn Back

Before you make a decision you may regret, from getting pregnant to getting a boob job, understand that actions have consequences. They can change your life for the worse, forever, so think hard before you act on your emotions. No man is worth serving a prison sentence for. There's no one and no unrequited or broken relationship that you can't get over in time.

In therapy it's possible to explore the roots of unhealthy, potentially damaging urges and learn ways to resist or channel them, and to find ways to build confidence.

Existence of Human Pheromones And Its Use as an Attractant

Pheromones are said to affect our chances for attracting the opposite sex. It is because of this idea that many scientists have sought for ways on how use human pheromones as an attractant. And although debates have gone on about the existence of human pheromones as well as its effect in human attraction, many have already concluded that pheromones in humans can also be used as an attractant.

Existence of Human PheromonesAlthough pheromones are more commonly known among animals and insects, recent studies had suggested that human pheromones also exist. And according to these studies, human pheromones had also been known for its effect as an attractant.

Three Difference Sources of Human PheromonesThe focus of the experiments on human pheromones has been on three classes of putative pheromones: axillary steroids, vaginal aliphatic acids, and stimulators of the vomeronasal organ. And from all of these, the axillary steroids are known to play the largest role as an attractant.

Van Toller, one of the many scientists that researched the existence of human pheromones, had concluded that androstenone, one of three axillary steroids, has been used by males as an attractant for women and is also thought to be a positive effector for their mood. In addition to that, this pheromone can also be used by males to to detect an ovulating female who would be more willingly to be involved in sexual interaction, which is why this is one of the many pheromone advantage.

Other popular axillary steroids used as pheromones include the Androstenol, a putative female pheromone which is said to increase other people's perception for attractiveness, and the androstadienone, which causes a positive reaction in women, often improving their moods. These three altogether is the perfect substance that many scientists had used in developing pheromone products, such as pheromone colognes and perfumes.

The vaginal aliphatic acids, on the other hand, are combination of different vaginal acids that are used to signal ovulation. This is used primarily to attract men for procreation or, in this case, one-night-stands.

Another popular source of human pheromones is the human vomeronasal organ, which serve as the primary receptor or sensory organ for pheromones. Milinski and colleagues found that the artificial odors that people chose are determined in part by their major histocompatibility complexes (MHC) combination.

Information about an individual's immune system could be used as a way of "sexual selection" so that the female could obtain good genes for her offspring. [17] Wedekind and colleagues found that both men and women prefer the axillary odors of people whose MHC is different from their own. For more information visit to our site at